After not speaking to anyone for four days straight, I’ve realized that it is hard to have social power in a place where one cannot speak. A monastery is a place for silent contemplation, for prayer, for work, for respect. Frivolity has no place in a monastery. It was for me a strange mixture of familiar and unfamiliar—for I am not a monk. I not Catholic, but Protestant. I am not even a man (which tends to be a requirement for being a monk).
And so I felt out of place and unsure of myself, conspicuous to any watching eyes as I wandered somewhat self-consciously. The notes and even the words for the Psalms sung at prayer were strange to me, and I was thankful for the liturgy; yet there were many parts which were not included (due to the variation of the services throughout the year). At times the silence was almost oppressive—meals were eaten without speaking, making it somewhat awkward to meet the eyes of any of the other people. It was almost as if we were each shadows haunting the place, each alone, not wishing to acknowledge the presence of the others. But the avoidance and the silence were freeing in a way as well. I was allowed to be unsure of myself the first few times I attended prayer. No one took notice of the things I unwittingly did wrong or omitted; and no one took notice of the things I did right, either. No one really has power in a monastery (at least not how we think of power). All are humble before God.
Noise and speech are how we assert our presence in the world. Without them, we feel as though we are less real, less substantial, as though we are treading through a dream world—or as though we ourselves are the dream. (And whose dream is it, I wonder?)